Motivation for Madani In’aam no. 7

Shaykh-e-Tareeqat, Ameer-e-Ahl-e-Sunnat دَامَـتْ بَـرَكَـاتُـهُـمُ الْـعَـالِـيَـه is not only himself a man of great virtue and respect even, for teaching respect and reverence to the Muslims, he authored a very informative booklet ‘Ihtiram-e-Muslim’ [Respect of Muslim]. In this sinful era, he has provided a mechanism for performing good deeds in the form of a questionnaire namely ‘72 Madani In’amaat’. Here is Madani In’aam no. 7: ‘Today, did you speak softly with everybody (at home and outside) whether younger or older, even with your mother (and your children and their mother)? [In Urdu, address others by ‘Aap’ instead of ‘Tu’; and say ‘Jee’ instead of ‘Hayn’.]’

While acting upon the above-mentioned Madani In’aam, we should also talk to everyone in a polite way. We must not use rough language, neither in our home nor outside. It has been observed that some people are very good as long as they are out of their homes, but the moment they enter the home, they roar like a lion, shout, and speak in a rude way even hurt others. Such types of people should bear in mind the following blessed Hadees of the Beloved Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم: ‘خَیْرُکُـمْ خَیْرُکُـمْ لِنِسَائِہٖ وَلِبَنَاتِہٖ’ i.e., The best amongst you is he who is good to his women [wives] and daughters.

(Shu’ab-ul-Iman, vol. 6, pp. 415, Hadees 8720)

The renowned commentator of Glorious Quran, Mufti Ahmad Yar Khan Na’eemi رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه has stated: The man with courteous manner is that who is courteous who behave gracefully towards his wife and children as he remains engaged with them all time. Being courteous with strange people is not the mark of one’s excellent behaviour because they meet occasionally. (Mirat-ul-Manajih, vol. 5, pp. 96)

Dear Islamic brothers! This great gift of Madani In’amaat is a best source of improving our world and Hereafter. Though acting upon it, we can have the yearning and motivation for reforming ourselves and the people of entire world as well as we can overcome our mistakes through the assessment of our good and bad deeds by the marking ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ questions. It is as if these Madani In’amaat bring us in a self-accountability court asking about the