12 Madani pearls of conversation

1.         Make conversation smilingly and politely.

2.         With the intention of pleasing Muslims, talk respectfully with the elders and kindly with the youngsters. اِنْ شَــآءَالـلّٰـه عَزَّوَجَلَّ, in addition to earning reward, you will hold a respectful status before them.

3.         Talking loudly as if you are shouting, as friends do, is not a Sunnah.

4.         With good intentions, make it your habit to talk politely even with a newborn baby. Your manners will improve and the child will also learn good manners.

5.         During a conversation, one should not do anything disgusting such as touching the private parts, removing dirt from the body with the fingers, touching the nose or putting fingers into the ears, nose or repeatedly spitting etc. People are disgusted by such acts.

6.         Calmly continue listening as long as the other person is speaking. Interrupting someone’s conversation is not a Sunnah.

7.         Do not laugh while talking. The Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم never laughed.

8.         Excessive talking and frequent laughing affect one’s prestige.

9.         The Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, ‘When you see someone blessed with disinterest in the world and (the attribute of) speaking less, adopt his nearness and company, as Hikmah (wisdom) is given to him.’ (Sunan Ibn-e-Majah, pp. 422, vol. 4, Hadees 4101)

10.      A blessed Hadees says, ‘The one remaining silent received salvation.’

(Jami’ Tirmiżi, pp. 225, vol. 4, Hadees 2509)

Mirat-ul-Manajih states: Hujjat-ul-Islam, Sayyiduna Imam Muhammad Bin Muhammad Bin Muhammad Bin Muhammad Ghazali عَـلَـیۡـهِ رَحْـمَـةُ الـلّٰـهِ الۡـوَالِی states, ‘There are four kinds of conversations: (1) completely harmful, (2) completely beneficial, (3) either beneficial or harmful, (4) neither harmful nor beneficial. It is necessary to abstain from the completely